More you might like
I’d divorce him too lmao
It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.
Basically!
Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.
The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.
These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.
Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.
I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.
Great news everyone we can finally start jerking off again!
Important reminder that the workers do not want us to boycott Kellogg's. In order to put pressure on them, it's important that demand stays the same and it's production they can't keep up with.
There are other ways to help, but it's important that we stop assuming that a strike is always accompanied by a boycott. Sometimes, a boycott is actually counter productive. Listen to what the workers on strike want us to do, and do that
In order to put pressure on them, it’s important that demand stays the same and it’s production they can’t keep up with.
no one should ever shoplift unless they want a thing from a store and don't want to pay for it
animal rights "activists" are always hating on arctic natives
Inuit eat many animals but they get the most hate for eating beluga whale even though they do not kill many of them, they use all the parts of the animal, therefore, honoring it, they don't eat them every day, and the beluga isn't endangered.
Sami get most hate for eating reindeer even though, we don't eat them every day, we also use all the animal that we can, and we only kill what we absolutely need.
Nonmeat food is very hard to get in arctic places, so we eat what we can and have always eaten.
You may not eat meat but you have absolutely no right to force others not to especially if they indigenous. Indigenous people have been humanely eating meat for thousands of years and haven't harmed the population of those animals.
Industrial meat companies are horrible but we don't contribute to that. If you want to make valuable change for the environment, focus the energy that you didn't waste on telling indigenous people to give up their culture (that has already been taken away from us) and instead focus it on big corporations that are actually harming the environment.
